Clear communication
It’s often a struggle to ensure your message is conveyed correctly. I have a hard time doing this, but I’ll try my best here regardless.
Not being understood is a common occurrence. This leads to frustrations very quickly, and if you let it escalate, it can become a monster you fear too much to even approach afterwards.
Wanting to be right often blurs the line of logic and reasoning. You end up focusing solely on your response and might completely ignore the other side of the conversation. This isn’t healthy because you end up not better than before the discussion took place: you didn’t learn anything new; you simply rehashed what you had in mind and regurgitated it back.
Refraining from letting this impulse take over is hard to do: you have to constantly monitor yourself while actively listening to the other person. After a while, though, I believe it can become more of a habit, but until you get there, you have to practice it just like any sport or new routine you want to try out.
In the heat of the moment, it’s easier to let the ego take the wheel and drive, but it’s not worth it: it’s like when you’re going to a location on autopilot and when you arrive, you don’t remember how you got there. You didn’t appreciate the journey and didn’t learn anything new.
Make sure to listen and be present at every moment in your life because it goes by way too fast: having a clear conversation with someone can yield excellent results and bring you more joy than you thought. And by thinking a bit more about what you have to say, you can help the other person understand better instead of shoving it down their ears and hoping for the best. Pushing things on people relentlessly rarely gives out the vibe and attention you want: they might see you as needy and not as interesting as you might think.
It’s not all about impressions, don’t get me wrong, but there’s a degree at which you’d want to present yourself properly to others, and that’s part of it.
What do you think? Let me know.