It doesn’t matter if others like you or not!

One underlying insecurity I struggled with for a long time was to be loved by everyone and until I could achieve that, I couldn’t appreciate the journey of becoming better.

Once you realize it can’t be achieved and ultimately that it doesn’t matter, you feel free and can overcome that limitation and then move on.

I don’t mean that appreciation for what you do isn’t nice, it is, but it should never be the end goal: we should be able to do what we need to do regardless if there’s a reward attached to it or not. We should not do a good deed “because” we’ll get something in return as it is not a genuine way of providing value since in the end, providing value should be the goal.

After further examination I now understand that it was my ego that was in the way of progress, growth, success. It was preventing me from fulfilling my need to help others. Providing valuable information, help, support, to everyone without waiting for recognition can be very rewarding in itself: you get to reflect on and do something good. 

That’s one reason why I write those posts: I want to get better at delivering my message and it also helps me reaching more people. Not everyone will like what I do but I’m now ok with it: if I can help 1 person have a better day, it’s very nice but ultimately, I’m not waiting for that to happen. I’m just doing my best to help if I can and it starts by helping myself getting better in everything I do, slowly but surely.