As you’d imagine, the goal is to see if everything is aligned as much as possible with my goal to become better. Of course, I can’t always have this right.
I try my best to be more aware of what I think and say. That’s a big job, let me tell you.
I especially observe how I react when I hear someone criticizing another person: it bothers me more and more now.
I catch myself starting to do the same sometimes, and it feels both right and wrong. It is so ingrained in us it’s scary. It makes the work even harder, but it’s not a reason to stop trying.
Judging others and ourselves seems to be our favourite sport, and it isn’t very nice: in all cases, we destroy something, whether it’s a friendship, trust or self-esteem. It can have disastrous consequences, and at the time we do it, we’re most likely more inclined to try to feel better ourselves, waiting for our short-lived boost.
We’re so used to getting what we want when we want it that it becomes a byproduct to expect this to make us feel better. It may just do that for a quick moment in time, but it’s never worth it.
I challenge you to go 1 day without judging anything. If you can’t go through the day without one judgement: either on you or others, you have to write it down in a journal, all of them, until the day is over. The timer resets the next day, and that’s when you try again from a fresh start. You write down again anytime you slipped up until you go for 1 full day without judgement. It will slowly become a habit and you’ll be more aware of what’s going on around you.
What do you think? Let me know.