Learning and frustrations
Today, I was frustrated with my son because he didn’t listen.
Wanting someone to succeed in life won’t guarantee success.
Wanting the best for someone is noble, but it remains a wish: it can’t be more than some fleeting hope that can’t yield any result unless the person starts doing something about it.
At this point, it’s no longer under your control. So, technically, it’s not up to you when it comes to that: you can bring a horse to the water, but you can’t force the horse to drink, right?
Why do we still feel bad when they don’t do as we say? Why do we feel as if they just don’t listen?
In fact, it’s just not our battle, but we feel like it is. It’s also easier to tell someone to act a certain way than to do it ourselves.
What frustrates us is often something we dislike about ourselves, so it hits even harder when they don’t want to change.
This is a twisted way of looking at life, yet many of us have no problem acting as if it’s normal.
Guiding others is exemplary and should be done to the best of our ability, but it should be that; guidance. We can’t really stress about what will be the outcome, even if those you try to guide are your children.
I have to remind myself that I have to do what I can as a parent, but I can’t do all the work for them: how else will they learn if I cut their food and start chewing it for them?
I don’t think I’m right all the time, but I do believe I can still teach them a thing or two. But as a teacher, you can’t pass the exam for the students: they have to show up and do what they can with what they learned.
What do you think? Let me know.