Trying to prove something…

I’m tired of feeling like I have to prove anything.

For a long time now, I felt it was my duty to change people’s minds about various subjects, and if I failed, it meant I was a failure. Well, it’s not true: we can’t “make” others understand, especially if they don’t see why it’s crucial.

What you understand now is the result of a series of circumstances that led you to this moment. We’re not following the same path, and, for that matter, we’re unlikely to live the exact same thing at the same time. It doesn’t mean we don’t come to the same conclusion at some point, but it may mean there’s a time gap between both events.

I feel there’s a strong sense of “wanting to be right” disguised as duty: others don’t have to see your point. It doesn’t mean to not express and say what you have to say, but at least you should let go of the expectation they’d respond favourably IF they even respond. They might not get it, want to understand, or even accept it. It’s fine.

It doesn’t mean you’re wrong or right. Therefore, it’s not an invitation to discouragement or disillusionment: both ends try to trick you into not doing better. The middle is where the balance is.

What do you think?